What does the bible say about judging others or upholding yourself as if you life with God is better then mine.

Luke 6:37-42 and Luke 18:9-14 give us a very strong message about what is and isn't pleasing to God. God will judge us in exactly the same way that we judge others.

An interesting verse on this subject is Phillipians 2:3. "...in humility consider others better than yourselves."

I believe you have picked a subject that is very important. All Christians must fight their natural inclination in this area. It is very easy to talk about what we should do and how we should respond to others, but it is much harder to put into practice.